Its over 100 days since Akhil left us,time seems to be whizzing past us, but we cannot forget every moment with him.I spotted this touching piece Nithya had written quietly, which is so like her. I thought it may touch you too, also, it would tell you more about our Akhil.
Read on...
My Son, God’s gift to us!
It was the year 2000.
Everyone, world over, seemed excited as well as apprehensive as it was the dawn of a new millennium!
At home, it was a totally different atmosphere, there was worry all over, as I was diagnosed with cancer and understandably it was dull and sullen. My husband and in-laws were especially worried as to how we would manage our daughter who was a ‘special child’ with different abilities.
The one who seemed to put a brave front and had a positive attitude was my son, Akhil. He was around 13 years. He was so positive and encouraging and not once did he show me, that it was difficult to manage without my help, his sister who was 3 years his junior. He just took over caring for her needs and looking after her, when I was away for long durations at the hospital.
He would help with feeding her, play with her, watch her favourite TV programs with her. It was as though, he had suddenly grown up the day I needed help. He just pitched in, as though that is what, he was meant to do.
I still remember, when I was undergoing chemo in the hospital, he would come to the hospital with my lunch on some days. Chemotherapy, can make you feel nauseated and pretty unwell. He would sit patiently next to me and coax me to have at least a little bit to eat; he would literally feed me from the plate. If I refused, he would say, Mom, you have to get well soon for me, you can’t leave me, and you are my best friend! You are everything to me and the one who understands me most!
He had also done two degrees in Reiki and he would sit patiently next to me and provide me with his healing. I can never ever forget, his love and patience!
3 months, back, my son Akhil lost his life in the Carlton Towers fire tragedy for no fault of his. He was just twenty three!
He surely beat me to it!
What I think he taught me, was to have courage, patience, to give love and not expect anything back.
I miss you very much Akhil.
Rest in Peace!
NITHYA UDAY
Very touching and moving, and yes, very much like Nithya.
ReplyDeleteI pray every day, that God gives you all the courage, strength and peace of mind to bear the loss of dear Akhil.
Lots of love & hugs,
Sandhya
very well written...
ReplyDeleteIm sure Aunty has more to share but yes he was so positive and encouraging all the time. We could all use that now...
Dear Uday and Nithya,
ReplyDeleteYou have learnt a lot more about Akhil when others shared their experiences on your blog and we have gotten to know the stuff you all are made off; thanks to each one of you sharing the special relationship you had with him.
Memories are roses, blooming evermore;
Full of fragrant sweetness, never known before.
I am sure you will think of umpteen ways to keep his memory alive and evergreen.
Lovely sharing Nithya,God bless you .
Kala Kudva
Dear Nithya:
ReplyDeleteI have no words to express how I feel when I read your blog; tears just block my vision. What you wrote is so typical of Akhil to give his all for the ones he loves and cares deeply. A memory comes back to me about that time you mention: if I’m not wrong wasn’t it Akhil who noticed you were feeling faint and unsteady one day? When he asked, you’d shrugged it off, but he insisted that you see the doc? And after that the diagnosis was made. We hadn’t met Akhil yet at that time but I remember feeling a strong bond towards him when I heard from Kamala Aunty how much he was looking after you and Arpita during those difficult days. I was impressed and moved that a young boy could be so brave.
And when we did meet him, Akhil was just as warm and affectionate. We remember fondly the brief time we spent and got to know Akhil - in Bangalore, when he visited us in Singapore, when we went on a holiday with him to Malaysia. The most recent was during his visit late last year. I remember he was sick and how anxious we were. And how he assured us that he was fine ... we still fussed over him! We loved spoiling him!
You and Uday have been, and still are, so strong and courageous during these 100+ days since Akhil left us. May God continue to give you both the strength to carry on without Akhil among us. His memories will always be there for us.
Take care, my dear.
Aruni
Dear Uncle and Aunty,
ReplyDeleteThis bit of text really sums up what stuff Akhil was made of, ever caring and so brave.
Not a day has passed in these 100+ days that I haven't thought of him. Hope he is in a better place.
May God give you strength in these times..
I miss you too Akhil.
Rest in Peace
-Sai Sudhir
Take strength from your memories aunty. He will always be with you. Akhil will always be a very special guy.
ReplyDeleteNikhil
A warm, hug to Aunty.
ReplyDeleteI remember her warm hug when we met last. You both are such wonderful people, it is no surprise that Akhil was like that too.
I'm sure he is a peace wherever he is.
- Reynah
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